Are you on the verge of giving up on love? Do you want to know why you should hold on to the fragile thread till the time you find THE ONE? Read on to find out!
Love is one of the most exciting adventures you’ll have in your entire lifetime, and making it one of the most memorable ones lies on your shoulders only. Through this journey we call life, you get to meet new people, have fun, mingle with others, and maybe, fingers crossed, meet the love of your life in the process. However, let’s just be honest for a moment – dating can be a bummer, especially when you meet those people with whom you don’t vibe at all. Repeated dissatisfactory encounters can often make you feel like you’re not worthy of love, thereby making you give up on the goal altogether. I, for one, have several reasons as to why you shouldn’t think like that and give up on love.
“There is never a time or place for true love.” – Sarah Dessen
There are uncountable reasons why you might have, at least once, thought about giving up on love in your life. For the single people, it might have been because you didn’t find a partner. For the married people, it might be because you don’t feel connected with your partner at all. However, all you need is a pinch of hope and a dash of positivity, and you can keep searching for the one till the time you stumble upon him/her and everything falls in place.
Love Teaches Important Life Lessons: Going through one failed relationship after another can be extremely frustrating, depressing, and heartbreaking. So much so that your heart physically has a crack (it’s science, believe me) when you’re heartbroken. But the one lesson you can take from all your experiences is that the timing was never right for you. Stop viewing your failed relationships as something that wastes your time. Rather, start analyzing to see where it all went wrong and what you can do to improve it the next time.
Love Gives You Time to Grow as a Person: They say that love has the power of changing individuals drastically – for the good and the bad, depending upon your partner and circumstances. If you ultimately decide to spend your life with him or her (irrespective of marriage or not), you get enough time to learn the skills and traits that make you a great life partner. The only hope that you will become a wholesome individual due to this feeling called love is enough for you to not give up on it as of yet.
Love Teaches You to be Selfish & Selfless at the Same Time: Do you find this tough to decipher? Well, allow me to make things simpler. You often feel like you can give your life and everything you have for the one you love and end up thinking more about your partner’s wellbeing – that makes you selfless. On the other hand, when you know that there’s someone by your side, holding your hand tightly through the challenges life throws at you, you get to make drastic changes for the betterment of your life – that’s selfish. At the end of it all, it is all worth it. Trust me on this.
Love Teaches You that You Deserve More: You must have heard the phrase that you shouldn’t settle for less than you deserve several times in your life, right? If you’re looking for true love, you should be willing to wait and do whatever it takes till the time you meet the one who makes your heart skip beats. Real love is all about spending quality time together and growing up with each other. If you haven’t yet found someone who can make you hop steps or go out of your way, you haven’t found the love of your life, and you should never settle with anyone less than that.
Love Teaches You that Life is Challenging but Helps You Overcome Every Obstacle: If you take a moment now and think about all the things on your bucket list, you will find every one of them to be as challenging as gets. These are the things that make you feel proud of yourself, accomplished, and inspired to do better. This is the same with finding a relationship that seems right from the beginning. It takes strength to wait for the right person rather than jumping into a relationship with the first person you meet, and if you’re looking for true love, you’ll gather all the strength you have and overcome the obstacles.
What if Love Isn’t Enough for Survival?
“Love is not enough. It must be the foundation, the cornerstone – but not the complete structure. It is much too pliable, too yielding.’
There are times in life when you might make the one you love your whole world. When that happens – remember, you’re one step away from making the entire relationship toxic. Yes, love isn’t enough. When it comes to spending the rest of your life with someone, you need to think of several factors – your thought process, his or her family, their upbringing, their profession, their friend’s circle, their habits, and the likes. They all fall under the dating phase, yes. But, the dating phase is all about both of you wearing rose-tinted glasses, and it doesn’t take long for you to take them off and face the harsh turn of reality.
You might feel like you’re in love with someone and cannot live without them, but the fact is, love teaches you to be with yourself and not be dependant on some other individual. Love is about somebody’s presence in your life with whom you can share every single aspect of your life without being judged. Love is your safe space where, at the end of your day, you can feel comfortable. Love is a wall, not your entire home. Yet, when you find the love of your life, everything would slowly fall in place.
Love Comes When You Least Expect It
Often, when you’re actively looking for love, it is one part of your brain that thinks you need it in your life. During this time, you become overanalytical about everything under the sun and start thinking about things you should better leave alone. This end ends with you not being able to find THE ONE. However, when you least expect it, the universe will manifest your active thoughts and bring you face-to-face with the one person who will change your life.
He or she will make you smile – now, more than ever, and genuinely, at that. He or she will make you want to live and pave the way for a better future. He or she will give you a bout of positivity that you never knew you were lacking, in the first place. That is when you’ll know you’re in love. All you have to do is keep your heart open for what is to come and let love take over.
No, don’t be afraid of embracing love as it doesn’t actively mean a range of responsibilities. It means being responsible for your actions and becoming a more responsible person at the end of the day (you see what I did there?) Love makes you a better person.
No, don’t stop looking out for love because when you finally find the one, you will know that this entire journey was worth it. Falling in love makes you want to love yourself in a new light, and if that thought itself doesn’t make you want to keep searching for the enigma, then I don’t know what will.
While I pen the last few words here, allow me to leave you with a thought –
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it…” – Rumi!