Is it Healthy to Masturbate When you are in a Relationship?

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It has become an age-old argument that questions whether masturbating is good or bad for your health. Some people argue that masturbating is not normal and the act can lead to addictions that affect your sex life. Others state that sex and masturbating is good for your mental health, due to the chemicals released in your body. In today’s article, we delve slightly into that argument but look more into whether is it healthy to masturbate when you are in a relationship. Would you be happy knowing your partner masturbates, or would it ruin your relationship, knowing that your partner is being sexually aroused by somebody else?

The fact is, most men and women actually do continue to masturbate when they are in a relationship, which doesn’t mean there is anything wrong. Especially in long term relationships, masturbating is very much a normal thing, possibly because they either have no time for sex or are finding sex boring.

With so many people still masturbating whilst in a relationship, it is interesting to dig deep and look at the positives and negatives of masturbating whilst in a relationship to uncover whether you would be happy or not with your partner jerking off.

Positives

There is plenty of scientific research which has found positives to masturbating. From improving mental health to having many more health benefits, let’s investigate exactly what positives there is about self-love.

Mental Health

If you didn’t know, masturbation can actually improve somebody’s mental health. Masturbating causes dopamine, a chemical that is widely associated with pleasure, to be released around your body which makes you feel good and much more positive. Furthermore, when you orgasm, the hormone ‘oxytocin’ is released which lowers cortisol levels. So how about stop feeling bad about wanting to pleasure yourself, you can’t argue with the scientific benefits.

Reduce the Risk of Prostate Cancer

I may sound like I am talking rubbish, after all, how can masturbation reduce the chance for a man to get prostate cancer? The answer is, I don’t know why, but the statement is true. According to a recent study carried out by Harvard University, men who have 21 or more orgasms per month could cut their chances of getting prostate cancer by 33%. This is a great figure and one of the many reasons why you should consider masturbating even if you are in a relationship.

Casual Encounters

Watching porn and masturbating should not be considered as cheating on your partner, plain and simple. Whilst some may not like the idea of their partner being sexually aroused by others, masturbating in fact stops the likelihood of your partner cheating or having ‘casual encounters’ with others. The act of orgasming lowers a person’s sex drive and stops your partners from going to the club looking for some no-strings-attached fun. Even here in London, you would be surprised by the number of married men meeting London escorts. People who are unhappy or bored with their sex lives can easily become distracted by others and seek to meet with others to have some fun in the bedroom. Being on the same page with your partner, understanding each other’s needs, and allowing each other to masturbate can greatly reduce the possibility of somebody cheating.

Negatives

Now, we have looked into the positives of masturbating whilst being in a relationship, are there any negatives to jerking off that can harm your relationship? Or are all the negatives around the sexual act, all caused by society?

Addiction

There are many reasons why people can become addicted to masturbating. Perhaps you are bored, lonely, have low self-esteem, have a high sex drive, or you are having relationship problems. Whatever the reason, there are side effects to becoming addicted to masturbating. Firstly, having a masturbation addiction can ruin your daily routine, as all you want to do is jerk off. For some people, masturbating becomes the only thing they can think of which not only affects their daily routine but their working lives and relationships.

You can also crave rougher, harder sex which your partner may not want. This may affect your relationship for the worse if you no longer want the same things as your partner.

Sexually, having an addiction can cause two issues. If you masturbate too much, you can cause physical injury or harm to your genitals., You can also have difficulties in achieving an orgasm over time, the longer you have the addiction. If you are finding that you are struggling to achieve orgasm through sex, you may find sex in the future boring, which may stop you from being intimate with your partner.

Conclusion

To conclude, there really isn’t a right or wrong answer because there are positives and negatives to masturbating. In my opinion, as long as you speak to your partner and you both understand each other’s needs, then you can work out between you if you are happy for you both to masturbate. Masturbation is natural and in most people’s lives, a ​common activity and you shouldn’t be embarrassed to try and talk to your partner about the matter.

My tip would be to not listen to people close to you who can affect your judgement, it’s your life and whether you are or aren’t comfortable with your partner masturbating really is up to you. Speak to your better half and move forward with your sex life in order to live a happy and safe life. That is the best way to enjoy your sex life whilst remaining 100% happy in your relationship. If you both want or expect different things, you can then work on that together or discover that you just aren’t ment to be together.

I hope this article has helped in your quest to discover whether masturbating in a relationship is good or bad and been able to make a decision for yourself. If you would like to share your opinions, please be in touch or leave a comment.

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