Kinky Ideas to Use Your Sex Toys for Sensuous Pleasure

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You and your partner are out for a vacation to a hill station. A beautiful and tiring trek later, both of you come back to your hotel. She runs the bath, drops some essential oils in the bathtub, and asks you to join her. Slowly undressing in front of you, she steps in one foot at a time, on your lap, with her back on your chest. As you caress her thighs with the warm water, you feel yourself getting harder by the moment. Your fingers find their way to her as you slowly insert one, then two. She moans with pleasure and arches to give you more space.

STOP!

What do you do next? Make love, right? Well, what if I tell you that there are several other techniques you can use to make her want you then and there and still increase the intensity in the process? There is exceptional performance pressure surrounding sex, and most of it comes from intercourse. But let’s not forget that a big part of the intensity in making love comes from masturbation and foreplay. Adult toys, thus, have made their way in the lives of couples slowly and steadily over the years.

However, with the unlimited types of toys available, how can you practically find out which one is right for you, and how to use it? Well, don’t worry! That’s what I am here for now. Keep up with me as I take you to the often touched but rarely discussed world of sex toys online!

The Magical World of Sex Toys

Orgasm-inducing Sexcessories can be typically broken into a few major categories, as I see them:

  1. Clitoral or External 
  2. Internal Vaginal
  3. Cock-Rings and Blowjob Sleeves
  4. Anal Toys

Each of these categories, as you might have already guessed, is then divided into several sub-categories to suit your requirements. The most intriguing part of surfing the world of sex toys is that it is never-ending. The more you know about these, there pops up new types of them! It is thus absolutely understandable if you feel overwhelmed with your choice but trust me when I say it is not that complicated. 

So, let us start with the basics and see where we can go from there:

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Dildos

Typically available in a phallic shape, dildos are perfect to give you the feeling of a real penis when inserted inside you. To stimulate penetrative sex, you may insert them either vaginally or anally, without having to lift a finger. It goes deep within and hits you right where you needed it to, the G-spot!

Vibrators

As an upgrade to the traditional dildo, a vibrator is one of the topmost choices you find when you search for sex toys onlineYou can find them in different shapes and sizes. A rare but extremely effective vibrator available in the market today is finger vibrators. These are typically ridged and rubbery and are to be placed over your fingertips to turn them into a vibrator. Here, the power is absolutely in your (or your partner’s) fingers hand you can modify it according to the pleasure you want to achieve.

Fresh from the blockbuster series Sex and the City fame, you also get the rabbit vibrator. It does the job of the best of both worlds. You get the rabbit insert in the vagina and yet have the fluttering on the clitoris. Imagine both vaginal and clitoral sensation at the same time along with speed settings you can shift at your will? Well, that’s the magic of the rabbit!

Strap On

Perfect for lesbian couples or those who want to play dirty, strap-ons have two parts- the harness and the dildo. The harness comes up to your waist, and the dildo is on your crotch, acting the same. With a flat base that lies secure on the surface, you can use rhythmic sensations to make the most of the strap-on during penetration. Go for either missionary or doggy style, orgasms are guaranteed with this!

Cock Cage

C’mon boys, don’t feel left out. I have something for you as well. Chastity cages or cock cages are unique devices that work best for those who are looking for carnal satisfaction out of their sex toys. Available in plastic or metal, such cock cages come up with padlock or keys so that you cannot have an erection. Perfect for short-term use, the punishment of having a secure ring around the penis and the testicles can only turn it into a beast when released. However, don’t forget to apply a lubricant to avoid chafing.

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Penis Rings

If you think cock cages are a punishment, then you must get your hands on penis rings. It is practically the opposite of cock cages and can help you last longer during intercourse. As the rings practically stop the blood circulation by being clamped down on the penis, the erection gets prolonged. As you wear it, go for the testicles first and then your penis. Always remember that as you grow harder, the ring becomes tighter.

Nipple Clamps

Why should boys have all the fun? Well, the concept behind nipple clamps is pretty simple. It’s a toy that lives by the thought of pain meets pleasure. The clamps press down on your nipples and create a bit painful but extremely sexual stimulation as it reduces the blood flow and applies stress to the area. The trick to using such nipple clamps is you need to get a heavy chain to put the weight on the nipples and get the best sensation ever. So, if you are ever buying sex toys onlineyou know what to look for!

Use your Toys wisely, and Pleasure is all yours

To use them in your sexual routine, you need to first introduce them in your bedroom and ensure that nothing gets awkward between you and your partner. Trust me when I say, suddenly bringing a sex toy out of nowhere when both of you are the height of an orgasm can take your partner aback and ruin the entire moment. You wouldn’t want that. Would you? So, let us try to understand the ways you can slowly bring sex toys into your regular sexual routine.

  1. Conversation: There can be nothing better in a relationship than open communication between the partners. Especially when you are thinking of introducing new things, you should discuss the same with your partner and see their reaction on the same. Tell your partner how you feel about it, and don’t forget to do the same after you reach the massive orgasm that day as well. 
  1. The Choice: You would have to visit all the websites that sell sex toys onlineread the reviews, and the work that the product does, and only then choose what you like. Yes, I can guarantee that the first time you choose a sex toy; it wouldn’t be as good as you have imagined, and that is understandable. But don’t just go with your initial reaction and stop using it altogether. Keep using the product every other day and experiment with the choice to finally find out which suits both you and your partner the most.
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  1. Experiment: The final point that you would have to note is the experimentation factor of the same. I understand that you want to spice things up in the bed, or your partner is suggesting the use of sex toys, and that is why you are reading this, but trust me, not all sex toys are for everyone. While these toys have a range of benefits that can induce orgasms in a couple, they might not even work for you. Keep in mind that the use of sex toys is actually giving you the space to experiment more in bed. You need to change your sexual positions and shift the approach, activity, or techniques that you use for optimum results.

Believe it or not, sex toys, even when meant for masturbation, can take your relationship to new heights that you would not even believe. So, why the wait? Get your hands on one of these novelty products and see how it can change you. To help you with the implementation, I have also come up with some kinky things you can do to your partner in bed. Are you ready for the ride?

The More, the Merrier

The pleasure of anticipation is bigger than the orgasm itself. 

Are you finding this hard to believe? Well, then I would suggest you speak to the experts in BDSM! Imagine a time when you are with your partner tied to the bed, unable to see what your partner is up to and suddenly feel an ice cube on your body. Feel the heat of his mouth and the chill of the ice cube at the same time as your partner lick your body to pleasure.

Feeling kinky, yet? If the answer is on the positive, think about what you would do to feel it in reality!

The Classic: If you are one of those couples who believe in keeping things classic, you must go for the blindfold and handcuff situation. If one of the senses of your body is restricted, the others rise in attention. The formula is simple, as you shield the eyes, the sense of touch is at its peak, and you can work your way around that. Take your partner to the poster bed and tie the hands and feel, spread-eagled. Tie a blindfold on the eyes and make your partner anticipate. Well, that is the time you can take a rabbit vibrator, for instance, and move it near her vagina. For girls, the penis ring is the perfect alternative. See your partner arch and hear the seductive moans as you feel yourself getting warmed up for the time ahead. 

The Relaxation: The pleasure of relaxation is the epitome of seduction, and I am not kidding at all. Try it to know what I am talking about. All you need to do is set up the ambiance into something cozy and warm as you take a massage oil or edible lubricant and massage your partner. The seduction of your soft yet passionate hands on your partner’s body is too good to miss. The massage oil would do its magic by having blood flow in your body. This is the best time to use nipple clamps and cock cages. With the contradictory work done by the massage oils and the toys, you would reach a stage that might give you a massive orgasm. You may want to lick her nipples or give her an oral to heighten the level of passion. 

The Masturbation: We all love the internet because it has several images and videos we love to masturbate to, right? But, have you ever imagined what it will be like when the show goes on live in front of you? Well, now is the time. Have your partner sit straight and sit on his lap. Take the dildo in your hands and make him watch you masturbate. Let him watch you moan with pleasure and feel the orgasm coming. Try to look in your partner’s eyes as you do this because this would only increase the heat of the situation. This is the same with men as well. At the brink of your orgasm, as your eyes start to close with pleasure, don’t be surprised if you find him, erect, inside you in a single thrust.

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The Trust: The base of every relationship is trust, and the trust fall is the highest definition of the same. While there is fun in handling your toys yourself, why not give your partner the chance to do his job? Ask him to use the vibrator on you and watch both of you in the mirror. My favorite position is having a mirror on the ceiling, the girl lying on top of the boy, with her back on his chest. This way, both the partners can see each other in the mirror on the ceiling and him using a vibrator on her. With one of his hands on her breasts, clasping the living daylights out, this gives the added sensation of masturbation to the man as well. You must know that your partner knows you inside out and can take you to the top of the world, only if you allow him or her.

If you keep all the basics I have mentioned here in mind, almost next to nothing can stop you from having the time of your lives in bed together. Amidst all of these, don’t forget that sex is all about pleasure and satisfaction and you need to do your best to meet that goal.

‘Till then, I’ll see you on the other side! 


Author’s Bio: Sharanya Bhattacharya is a writer with a keen interest in the nuances of a relationship. She writes about anything under the sun but prefers to share her insightful comments on strengthening the bond of love. She spends her time studying human behavior and writing on mental and sexual health. In her free time, she is not only a music aficionado but is an ardent fan of romantic thriller books.

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