A Complete Beginner’s Guide to Strap-Ons

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Strap-ons can be so much fun, whether they’re used by a guy or a girl, on a guy or a girl. Anyone can be the top and anyone can be on the receiving end. What matters is choosing the right toy and using it responsible to ensure everyone’s pleasure.

Now, you may be thinking that picking a strap-on is such an easy task. In reality, things are a little bit more complicated. There are many varieties and options to go through before buying. Finding the perfect one depends on personal preferences, budget and intended use.

If you’re making your first tentative steps in the world of strap-ons, the following guide will teach you the essentials (both in terms of selection and in terms of use).

Here’s our complete beginner’s guide to strap-ons!

Types of Strap-Ons

Originally, strap-ons were created to target problems like erectile dysfunction and strengthen marriages. Today, many additional uses have become possible.

The hollow strap-on is still here. It’s the perfect choice for guys who can’t get or sustain an erection long enough to please a partner. Hollow strap-ons are also perfect for those concerned about their penis size. When worn over the phallus, the strap-on increases the length and girth. It also provides a bit of texture for added stimulation.

Vibrating strap-ons are the next fun choice. As the name suggests, they can vibrate. Both the wearer and the recipient sense the pulsations, which can easily contribute to some of the most earth-shattering orgasms.

Next come the pegging strap-ons. These are especially created for the needs of a male recipient. The probe is usually narrow and streamlined. That design facilitates penetration and also helps for more tailored and precise prostate stimulation. When a prostate massage is carried out in a correct way, it can enhance the intensity of orgasms significantly.

We also need to talk about a fairly new variation of the toy and that is the strapless strap-on. As the name suggests, there are no harnesses that the wearer uses to secure the probe against their pelvic region. Rather, there’s a retention bulb that goes inside the wearer’s vagina. This way, both the wearer and the recipient are being penetrated. Strapless strap-ons require some getting used to (and some pelvic muscles strength) but they’re a very exciting choice for girl on girl or girl on guy action.

As you can see, there are lots and lots of choices.

Do a quick review of what the market has to offer first. This way, you’ll acquaint yourself with the product categories. Once you zoom in on one variety that you like the most, you can move on to other important considerations.

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Best Strap-On Materials

A strap-on consists of two components – the harnesses and the strapon dildo.

Harnesses need to be wide enough and properly padded to feel comfortable against of digging into your flesh. Nylon, polyester, cotton, leather and various types of synthetic materials can be used to make comfortable harnesses. Sometimes, underwear-style harnesses are also available. These resemble panties, thongs or boxers with the probe attached to the front. Many people consider this variety the most comfortable one.

When it comes to the probe itself, the selection of the right material is even more important.

You see, the sex toy industry is not properly regulated, regardless of its size. This means that manufacturers can use any kind of material without facing serious consequences. It’s up to you as a consumer to learn a bit more about materials and to determine what would be safest.

The golden standard in the world of sex toys is medical-grade silicone. The material works so well because it is non-porous and waterproof.

Non-porous sex toy materials do not harbor bacteria and dust when they’re cleaned properly after each use. As a result, they’re the safest ones. The consistent use of porous materials can increase the risk of rather unpleasant and even dangerous infections.

Some of the best non-porous materials out there include glass, stainless steel, stone, ABS plastic and some kinds of thermoplastics.

Speaking of safety, there is another danger to consider before buying a strap-on. Some kinds of soft, malleable and flesh-like plastics are treated with chemicals to achieve the perfect texture. These chemicals can easily enter the body when in contact with skin or mucous membranes. Phthalates are probably the most dangerous chemicals used in the treatment of plastics. They’re endocrine disruptors that increase the risk of various medical problems developing down the line.

Cyberskin and various thermoplastics can contain phthalates or other harmful chemicals. This is why you should be careful about the selection of such products.

Other dangerous sex toy materials to avoid include rubber and jelly.

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Simple Tips for Amazing Strap-On Use

Now that you’ve chosen a good strap-on, it’s time to get down to business.

Each time you introduce a new sex toy in your intimate routine, you have to exercise some patience. Good communication with your partner will also be required. By being gentle and taking it slow, you can discover the moves that work amazingly well for both of you.

Let’s start with the golden rule of sex toy use and that is lube things up. Lube is your friend! Sex toys are not human flesh. No matter how realistic, they have a different texture. In the absence of enough lube, such toys can be uncomfortable and even painful to use.

One thing to keep in mind is that the type of lube to use depends on the material that a strap-on dildo is made of.

Medical-grade silicone toys, for example, are incompatible with silicone or oil-based lubes. These can cause some disintegration. Hence, always use a silicone strap-on with a high quality water-based lube.

Glass and metal strap-on dildos can be used with all kinds of lube.

Thermoplastic and cyberskin toys are not compatible with silicone lubes, as well. Once again, water-based lube would be your safest bet.

When choosing lube, always do a tolerance test. Make sure it doesn’t irritate your skin or cause an allergic reaction. Apply a small amount on the back of your arm before getting the lube. If you don’t experience any unpleasant reactions, you’re good to go.

Before using a strap-on, you have to make sure that both of you are properly turned on and aroused. This step is especially important if you’re using a larger toy. Sex toy makers recommend starting out with a smaller toy, especially if you don’t have a ton of experience with strapon dildos. This is also important for anal play and pegging. When you feel comfortable with a smaller probe, you can move on to something bigger.

The same rule applies to vibrations and pulsations.

Start at the slowest and most timid setting. You can increase the intensity of stimulation gradually, until you’ve achieved an orgasm. Don’t get started from 100, however. There’s no place to go from there. Furthermore, very powerful vibrations can be uncomfortable if you’re not properly aroused yet.

Finally, always focus on consent and feedback. If you’d like to try something new, ask your partner about it first. Everything in sex is acceptable if it’s desired by both people involved. If your partner is hesitant or uncertain about a certain practice, you should probably move on to something else.

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Always Practice Proper Sex Toy Care

The final thing we need to mention isn’t as sexy as some of the other points but it’s essential.

Sex toy use involves proper care and maintenance. Cleaning toys thoroughly after each use and storing them correctly will increase safety and prolong the lifespan of your favorite items.

A strap-on should be cleaned immediately after use. You don’t want body fluids and other residues drying on the material. When this happens, your toy will become much more difficult to sanitize properly.

Pay attention to the manufacturer instructions before dunking your strap-on in a cleaning solution. There are recommendations pertaining to safe and optimal cleaning practices. Generally speaking, waterproof toys can be submerged in water and soap (or a specialized sex toy cleaning solution). If your strap-on is not waterproof, clean it gently with a damp cloth or a sponge soaked in the right cleaning solution.

Always dry your toys thoroughly before storing them in a box or a pouch. Some materials will necessitate the application of renewal powder to keep the strap-on from becoming sticky. In other instances, you will need to store your strap-ons separately from other toys. When some materials come in contact with other sex toys, they could start disintegrating.

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Final Verdict

Strap-ons are a lot of fun. They’re such exciting, versatile toys. Many couples have a number of strap-ons that are used for different kinds of play. You can definitely enjoy such experiences yourself.

If you’re buying and using a strap-on for the very first time, start slow. Go small in terms of size. As you become more experienced, you can seek out niche toys to diversify your sex routine even further.

Don’t be afraid of exploring facets of your sexuality you didn’t know where there. Sex toys can help with such exciting experiments. Having a supportive, open-minded partner can also be tremendously beneficial.

In this complete beginner’s guide to strap-ons, we’ve covered everything that a person, trying to choose their first strap-on, should know about them. Hope it was helpful, and let us know if we missed something! Regards

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